For the brave few who make the decision to live in their truth, the transition of being a transgendered male or female sometimes cost them more than they bargain for. As you will hear in this short documentary, Paul Wolscht thought he had a love for cross-dressing. Now, as Stefonknee (pronounced ‘Stef-on-knee’), she has left her wife and seven children, and overcame insurmountable challenges to fulfill her true identity.
In the emotional video, news site The Daily Xtra collaborated with The Transgender Project, in telling the Stefonknee Wolscht story. The 52-year-old of Toronto talks about the moment she realized she was transgender, rather than someone with a love for dressing as the opposite sex.
After understanding that she would never be accepted by her wife and children, Stefonknee moved on, and now lives with friends who she calls her “adoptive mommy and daddy” as a six-year-old girl. She dresses in children’s clothing and spends her time playing and coloring with her adoptive parents’ grandchildren.
Stefonknee says her ‘adoptive’ family is completely accepting of her identifying as a little girl, and she decided to do so because it’s something she could never do when was in grade school.
“I can’t deny I was married. I can’t deny I have children, but I’ve moved forward now and I’ve gone back to being a child. I don’t want to be an adult right now.”
In the winter, Stefonknee earns money by plowing snow. She says that when she’s at home with her adoptive family, “They color and do kid’s stuff. It’s called play therapy. No medication, no suicide thoughts. And I just get to play,” she shares.
Stefonknee also addresses her reaction to her wife’s ultimatum to “stop being trans or leave.” She said, “To me, ‘stop being trans’ isn’t something I could do. It would be like telling me to stop being six-foot-two or leave.”
Stefonknee previously went by the name Paul and worked as a mechanic. She was a dedicated member of the Catholic church, and says she knew she was trans before she got married to Maria, her high school sweetheart, but had little understanding of what that meant. She also shared how terrified she was of being different.
As for her future Stefonknee says, “It’s a fresh start. We have a quasi-family that we’re creating. And I’m allowed to be exactly who I am.”
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